Why didn't I continue this blog?? Oh my GOOODNESSS!! I will need to go back into my journals. What A SHIT SHOW the years to come became!
OMG thank God I didn't know. I am crossing the bridge and it SUCKS. I hate the bridge so much.
Okay so Mom went into The Residence at Salem Woods...I had the biggest stomach ache of life. I absolutly did NOT want to do this. Her caretaker bled us dry. She literally tortured us. She needed more time off, she needed more money. Mom had covid - she wouldn't come back...The night before our Anniversary we were going to Florida she had a temper tantrum and said she wasn't sure if she was coming back. Steve called her and kind of blasted her and she came home....we decided that vacation it was time. They day we dropped her off I was absolutely sick! It was Steve and I of course- I think the girls, and Patty and David. We got her apartment all set up - totally adorable. It was time to go...she looked at me and said "are you leaving me here? I said Mom I'll see you soon - she said "Thanks A lot!!!!" I left and laughed then cried my heart out.
Then DAD DIED on me!September of 2022 I had to put my Mom in a home and a month later my rock, my confidant, my go to...my surrogate MOM went and died on me. OMG what a terrible time in my life.
I hated putting Mom somewhere - in a perfect world I could have moved in and taken care of her myself. Now in September of 2026..in hindsight...she might have had another decent year at home - maybe two. Damn I wish I had a different caretaker who could have worked with me. Maybe a BROTHER or a SISTER IN LAW or someone in the family who could have helped give her those extra couple of years. But ultimately it was taking me over. I was obsessed with my Mom. I barely remember my Grandsom Jameson as a baby - I was so tied up in my Mom. I would go to her apartment which was super cute - but she was at the end of the hall - totally lost in the shuffle. I would watch her cameras - the ladies weren't taking care of her! All I asked is that they go in - give her a snack and a drink and put Raymond on! Thats IT - they wouldn't do it! I would call and call and leave messages. They wouldn't answer the phone. I got in fights with the staff. It was the worst!!! And my Dad went and died on me.
Mom fell, mom got shingles in her eye - I got EXCEMA - I almost died in May of 2024 but like i told Victoria - I'm a tough Gramma
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